4 self-destructive things you do after a breakup that you’ll regret later

1. A REBOUND

A rebound is a temporary soother and a life-long regret. Moving on after a break up is like learning to walk again after recovering from a leg injury. You go on and try to get hold of anything that offers you a little support to help you walk again. Similarly, as we aren’t supposed to be single and are for sure not used to it anymore, we grab onto the first person who approaches us. We forget that the best things in life are found the hard way, nothing good comes easy. Learn to walk on your own so you can stumble upon something beautiful.

2. DISTANCING YOURSELF FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY

A lot of us fold our knees, shut our eyes and pretend to be lifeless for weeks and often months after a breakup. Our friends and family try to reach out to us and help us out but we close all doors. Often offending or even insulting a few in the process of healing. Whereas, those helping hands are the quickest ways of healing.We lose good friendships permanently if not changing them for good over this phase of let-us-be-on-our-own.

Your friends and family are the only people who can help you. Remember what you truly were before the relationship and that’s what truly heals a person.




3. STALKING THEM TO FIND OUT IF THEY HAVE MOVED ON

The last thing you want to do is see their Facebook page a million times during the day, just to see if they have moved on. Revisiting their Facebook page will still keep you connected to them and you will still feel like a part of them. What’s worst than still feeling connected to them is when you keep checking on them to see if they have moved on and you find out that they did! It’s a huge blow to the heart, it feels like a break up all over again. Don’t multiply your own pain, let them move on and let yourself heal.

4. BLAMING EVERYTHING ON EITHER ONE OF YOU

No one in a relationship, after a breakup, is to be held responsible solely. Every relationship has two people, two wills and two point of views. As I have emphasised a lot of time, there can never be one person who is a complete angel in the relationship and the other is the demented soul.